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The Biological Imperative

The basic principles of biology relative to reproductive fitness and sex roles can be applied to humans directly to explain most of the relationships between men and women. Note: as sex roles change to more modern ones, much of this no longer applies. Note that this is just sociological BS and is written only for your amusement.

Women: Do you suspect that that man who seems to like you is purely interested in your body? You figure he's only interested in getting you in the sack as soon as possible, and will run away as soon as you're pregnant? Well, although many men have greater ambitions, you're at least half right.

Men: Are you afraid that if you marry your sweetie that she doesn't actually love you, and will divorce you as soon as you have a child, in order to collect alimony and child support, while you work yourself to the bone with no time or money left to chase other women? Well, of course she loves you, but the idea may be in the back of her mind.

It's the biological imperative: the one thing motivating the ideals of romantic love -- and other feelings which can be classified as lust. The urge to reproduce. It's down there inside you -- inside all of us. The thoughts of a young man from the age of 19 to 25 are controlled by this imperative one out of every five waking minutes -- for it is this time in his life when he is most virile, most attractive, most unencumbered by the troubles of life. Women around the age of twenty-six to thirty-five are the most afflicted by the same illness; they are in the most reproductively healthy period of their life. Just look at the personals ads of any newspaper: almost all of the women who describe themselves as sexy or attractive are near this age.

As a result, it is not surprising to find that older women are attracted to younger men, and vice versa. It's a purely natural attraction. When the imperative is followed through, reproductive success and the survival of the offspring is optimized. The older women are likely established and able to support a child of their own, and the younger men are free to escape and reproduce again. Ever wonder what the reason was for the stereotype that men tend to avoid commitment? It's simply because if they can knock up a girl without marriage, they can continue to reproduce like rabbits. A marriage would decrease their reproductive fitness. In the past, when families of five or more children were common, this was not the case; now, families of one or two are common.

Women, on the other hand, would look for the best specimens of men, and would attempt to obtain the best quality genetic material for their children. [Any women wish to elaborate? I don't know much about this]

The issue of cheating is easily examined using the biological imperative. Men don't want women to cheat physically, because that could reduce their genetic fitness, as they might end up supporting a child that isn't of their own genes. Women don't want men to cheat emotionally, because they could lose the man to another woman.

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